Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Secrets of a Dominatrix

I have a friend; let's call her Jane...who is typical in every way that  you'd assume a housewife and mom could ever be typical.
Nice house, a (seemingly) great husband; 2 kids....a yellow lab in the back yard.
She cooks dinner (chicken and pasta and salad with garlic bread)...she does the laundry (whites with whites; towels by themselves....dark colors in one load...) and she goes to Yoga twice a week while the kids are in school. Normal life; average compared to 96% of the rest of the population.
We've been friends for 4 years now.
'Jane' is also, among everything else that she is, a closet dominatrix.
Her husband kisses her goodby every day before work; she kisses her children goodby every day before school; she feeds the dog and vacuums the living room floor and does the breakfast dishes....
then she checks her emails and makes her appointments for the day.
At 11:00 (three times each week; Mondays, Wedensdays, and Fridays) she meets 'Mark'; a lawyer who is married with 2 daughters. He has been married for 22 years to the same woman. They have Christmas parties; go to the movies every weekend with their daughters and sip red wine by the fireplace every evening after dinner....
'Mark', unbeknownst to his wife of 22 years, secretly LOVES to wear women's underwear and be beaten for it; at least; so 'Jane' giggles and tells me. So she buys him a new pair of underwear, three times each week and meets him at 11:00 sharp in his office, posing as a 'client'. He closes the door, puts on his new undies and she makes him stand, spread eagled against his desk bent over slightly while she spanks him mercilessly with an egg spatula that she brought from home. He cries silently and doesn't mutter a word; part of the control I guess; so that no one will hear?; and she spanks him until he has large red welts all over his ass and thighs...she explained to me that there are never any 'lasting marks' like bruises or bleeding; just large welts left so that he will be sore and feel the 'pricks of pain' from his suit pants and the chair when he sits or stands....
Jane has never had sex with any of her 'clients'. She says it's not about the sex at all....it's about the control she has over them and their acceptance of it and their 'need' for it...
I can honestly say that while it all seems a bit lurid and strange to me; the notion is fascinating. There's a bit of a morbid curiosity bubbling inside of me about what makes this type of role playing game or lifestyle 'click'...
All I know is that she is ELATED every afternoon when she comes home and we share a cup of coffee and giggle about her latest escapades; but she is also very respectful in that she never tells me true identities or names--all to protect the innocent...lol; she only says that I'd be 'shocked and amazed' about who wants what from her....I guess there are just some things that I DON'T need to know!...but if my viewers like these posts; or 'secrets from my dominatrix neighbor' and aren't offended; then I'll keep posting them...
I guess this is a test run to see who likes to read what....so give me some feedback people!

Misery Loves Company...except when lonely is better.

It's scary to wake up one day when you're 35 and realize that your life is 1/3 or more 'over'....scarier still to wake up when you're 35 and realize that at 35, you've yet to find true 'peace and happiness' in your life...MUCH scarier still to wonder if in fact you ever will...
Most of my blog posts are or have been pretty 'normal'...short snippits about where to find what; how to do this or that...nothing with any 'meat on the bones' content I guess...
most people are afraid to put themselves out there to the world and be ripped apart equally by fans or critics or 'followers'...but since I don't have very many followers as of yet; I suppose that, for now; I'll just have to take my chances and let the chips fall where they may.
I'm 35. A mom of 4 biological children and 2 step children. A wife. And a full time manager of someone else's company.
I'm 35 and I don't want to be 35. I never wanted children (truth be  known) and I'm despairingly miserable in my marriage. I'm intelligent and driven and constantly wonder why I'm managing someone else's company and not my OWN. At 35, I  feel totally and completely swallowed up in my life. This isn't a pity party...just a fact; self realization and 100% honesty let me say that my life and all that 's wrong with it is completely my own fault.
Still; as a 35 year old woman; I fantasize about something better; something 'more'; and wonder if it's 'too late' for me....and I wonder how many other women out there (and men too?) wonder the same thing...
regret the choices they made...or realize that life has swept them up in a current too strong to swim against and left them with no options....
I've been married twice now...the first time was a TOTAL mistake; but when you're pregnant at 15; there really doesn't seem to be many open roads for you when you don't have an accepting family...so there is strike one for me...lol.
Met a great guy and fell in love 'once upon a time' about 13 years ago now...but he decided to begin a journey down a different path than me regarding religion/spirituality; diet; parenting; politics and just about everything else and I just don't know who I'm waking up beside of anymore...I'm married to a stranger that I loved once; a long time ago; but I just don't know who he is anymore....if that makes sense?
Not that I expect anyone out there to really read this or relate...or maybe I do?....
I guess somehow it just makes it easier to cope with it all to put it down onto a screen where I can actually SEE how I feel inside; and say the things that my heart WANTS to say but that my voice can't find the courage to...

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Looking for a GOOD dermatologist?? Don't just check the phone book! Read this first!

If you're in the market for a GOOD dermatologist then you'll want to explore all of your options as far as research goes. Dermatologists and plastic surgeons are closely related medical fields sometimes in the work that they do, but there are times when medical necessity calls for one or the other for specific medical procedures, treatments and physician's knowledge. Read this quick article so you'll be in the loop of how to find a GOOD dermatologist should you have the need for one!

Identify potentially dangerous moles on your skin--an early skin cancer screening you can do at home!

Moles are normal. Nearly every human has them in some shape, form, size or color. Moles make your skin unique and can even be classified as 'beauty marks' if they're in the right spot and on the right celebrity. But what if your mole is hiding an ugly little secret? Sometimes moles can be an early warning sign of skin cancer and, if caught in time, a mole's silent story could very well save your life. Check out this very helpful and informative article on 'How to know if your mole may be cancer' so you'll know the A,B,C's of mole health!

Monday, May 18, 2009

Easy ways to save money while moving

Are you in the process of moving due to job displacement, job relocation, or foreclosure?? The expense and stresses of moving can be daunting and traumatic to say the least; but there are a few little tricks you can apply to put some much needed CASH back into your OWN pockets (rather than throwing it out the window or into a moving company's bank account). Want to know how? Check out this short article for some simple tricks and tips on how YOU can save some money on your next big move!

Skin Care Rx has got loads of great freebies and specials going on right now!

If you haven't checked out Skin Care Rx yet (and you've got SKIN), then you probably should because you're really missing out...Skin Care Rx.com has everything for skin of all ages--teens, midlife mommas, and seniors. From eye brightening creams to anti aging serums to acne treatments and sunscreens; Skin Care Rx.com has really got it all--and they're offering lots of bonus buys and freebies right now as well! Check this link for all of your skin care needs--and spend $50 or more and get free shipping as well!

BBQ Guys.com rocks for grilling needs!

If you haven't checked this site out and you're in need of a fabulous BBQ grill or grilling accessories of any kind; then you need to click on this easy link and check out this site! BBQ Guys has a great variety of popular brands like Weber, DCS, Lynx, Fire Magic, etc. and they have a wide range of ready-to-ship items in stock that's perfect for your outdoor chef. Check out their huge selection of electric BBQ grills, charcoal grills, gas grills, smokers, cast iron cookware, and grilling accessories to compliment your outdoor kitchens or grilling stations. Can't figure out what to get dad or grandpa for a birthday, anniversary, or FATHER'S DAY!? BBQ GUYS.COM offers convenient gift certificates too! Fast and free 24 hour shipping on many items makes shopping here that much easier! Need I say more?? Click the link to check 'em out!

Friday, May 15, 2009

Sizzix and scrapbooking go hand in hand!

Scrapbooking is a hot hobby right now with soccer moms, grandmas, and creative entrepreneurs who like to scrap, create and make money with their unique works of art. On ebay, 12X12 scrapbook pages (if done in a unique and 'artistic' fashion) can fetch anywhere from $4 to $2100 (per pair!) I've done some scrappin' myself here and there and there's tons of lingo and 'little secrets' about scrapbooking that no one ever tells you--I'd suggest going to the Sizzix website for some great hints and tips as well as 'investing' in your scrapbook 'business' as they've got all the latest and greatest machines, die cuts, gadgets, tools and specialty scrapbooking items that you'd ever want to find anywhere...here's a shortcut to get you there!

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Sketchers shoes are the IN brand for 'back to school' style!

Sketchers is all the rage in fancy footwear now...trendy and comfortable--men, women and kids of all ages opt for sketchers over other brands when shopping for work, sports, school and hobby activities. Check this link for some great deals and promos on sketchers shoes for your entire family!

Pet lovers need to check this out! Pet care products for CHEAP!

National pet pharmacy is an online pet service/pet needs outlet designed to make ordering pet prescription medications, flea and tick products, heartworm medication, pet food and pet supplies more easy and at drastically reduced prices. If you have a furry friend and want to save some money on thier basic necessities; then check out this site a.s.a.p.!

How to File a complaint against a doctor!

You've had a little nip and tuck...a little lift and pluck...but oops! Your doctor messed up and now ''things'' aren't where they're supposed to be anymore--and you're out thousands of dollars and are either disfigured, mentally scarred or DEAD! If you've had plastic surgery or feel like you might have a medical malpractice suit against your family physician, a psychologist, a dermatologist or plastic surgeon then you won't want to miss the little tidbits in this article! Not only will it help YOU out, but it may just save some poor innocent soul's time, energy, money and LIFE as well!


Don't we all!? Have you ever gone into someone else's home or office and taken a look around...let your eyes wander over beautiful crown moulding or intricate ceiling medallions elegantly displayed above large light fixtures above your head and said, "Man oh man...I sure wish I had that!"--well, here's the site for you! If you're looking to add some instant elegant flair to boring walls or ceilings, then you'll want to check this site out first! It's got every thing you could ever 'wish' for--and then some! check it out!

Don't get scammed out of time and money! New site aids consumers on getting the honest 'low down' BEFORE you pay up!

Here's a great link to a new site with the consumer's best interest in mind! Angie's list is a site that rates and gives honest reviews about local contractors, businesses, and services at the touch of a mouse! Check it out BEFORE you hire someone and save yourself tons of time, energy, effort, money and heartache!

Twilight fans are anxiously awaiting the release of New Moon, November 2009!

Twilight by Stephenie Meyer has swept the nation with a frenzy of Edward Cullen fanatics and Bella Swan wanna-be's. Girls of all ages swoon over the character Robert Pattinson brilliantly portrayed in Twilight and the name Edward Cullen seems to be on the lips of girls from 9 to 90 now a days. If you've read the Twilight series of novels and have become an Edward Cullen die hard fan, then check this article out! Ever wonder what Twilight written from Edward Cullen's perspective would be like? Here's a taste that will leave you breathless and hungry for more!

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Advertise on my blog?? Possibly!

Twitter much?? Check out Tweet Later for Twitter Peeps!

Tweet later is a cool site that can helpy ou actually promote your Twitter ID or blog on Twitter on 'autopilot'! Check this out so you can Tweet Later...even when you aren't at your computer!

Need help boosting your credit score?

This article provides a really unique way to boost your credit score in a short amount of time! Totally legal, free, and easy to do! Read on to find out how!

Trying to get pregnant? Hot how to tips to get pregnant FAST!

This article provides some basic tips and tricks to aid in your fertility issues so that (hopefully) you will be able to get pregnant fast....Read on for some key ideas and advice on how to have a baby and get pregnant fast!

Get help controlling cholesterol in your child

Cholesterol in children all across the United States is on the rise. Heart disease is the leading cause of death in America and coronary problems begin in early childhood. Read this helpful how to article to help get control of your child's cholesterol levels before it's too late!

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Need help on how to avoid cross contamination of food in your kitchen?? Here's HOW!

Avoid getting sick from toxic bacteria, mold and viruses in your kitchen by learning how to NOT cross contaminate your food and cooking utencils. Read this quick 'HOW TO' article to avoid cross contamination of food in the kitchen.

How to find an HONEST car mechanic

Trying like heck to find an honest car mechanic that knows what they are doing?? Read this short article to give you some quick tips and hints on how to find a good, and honest, local mechanic in your home town!

Monday, May 11, 2009

How to get hair with super sexy volume

Do you love those fabulous hair styles seen on Red Carpets and runways? Do you wish you knew how to get luxurious volume, bouncy layers and shiny strands? Never fear--all the secrets are HERE! Read this helpful article on how to get super sexy movie star soap opera hair (easy)!

How to file an injured spouse tax credit form

Tax time is here again for all of us 'working Joes'....have you filed your taxes yet ? (Uncle Sam wants to know!) Maybe you HAVE filed and you're excited to find that you're supposed to get back a nice little tax refund credit...a much needed boost to your income with this crummy economy...and then reality sets in. Remeber those back taxes your spouse owes?? Guess what!? The IRS remembers them and they can swipe your refund before the check is even cut and signed! But there's hope for you yet! You could be entitled to YOUR HALF of that tax refund amount! Do you even know if you qualify for the injured spouse tax refund? Read this helpful article to find out if you can still claim a large portion of your tax credit if the IRS has taken it due to your spouse's back taxes or past due child support! It may save you thousands!

How to dine out for pennies on the dollar!

Love to eat out but your budget won't allow for it? You might want to read this 'How to' article to learn how visiting ONE simple site will save you mega bucks and let you eat out in style!

How to crackle paint furniture

Need help with refinishing that dining room table or headboard?? Read this tidbit on "How to crackle paint furniture" for an easy remedy to give 'old furniture' a much needed face lift!